Wednesday, November 14, 2012

I've slept with more people than K...

When you find yourself saying things like "I've slept with more people than Kim Kardashian" at work you might realise that it's going to take longer to explain than you previously planned. I.e. it might have been a little too complex a thought to use an analogy with to start with.

Then again, that's apparently how I am every once in a while - defending the right to be a slut and still be a good scientist. Or, since this was my main point of the saying, that speculating into someone's sex life to discredit them and their personality might not be anything I'm interested in doing... and especially not when it's a woman and the US election was coming up and it was all in all too many assumptions linked together without too much evidence. In short, I was simply too tired to hear about women being slutty and that it would indicate that they (we?) are "bad people" unless you are chaste and virtuous.

And sometimes the fastest way to get some people's attention are quick sound bites. Hence the "I've slept with more than her"; where 'her' = "the (slutty) woman with the sex video" and additionally the comment "she wasn't just with one football player, she slept with the whole team" (since we all know that if you do one thing you probably do the other too.... no morals at all, duh.) . I got tired and instead of trying to reason "just because you release a sex video with your footballer boy friend doesn't mean you sleep with his team mates" and the follow up "even if she would've slept with more than one boy friend does that make her a bad person, so how many are you allowed to sleep with before you're a bad woman?" I went straight for the "well, maybe I've slept with that many men. Would that make me a bad person/co-worker/scientist too?".

Not the most clever thing I've done. Nor the worst I guess. But I need to remember yet again to be more "appropriate". Since I was out of line... hm.

I was mainly fed up with the whole "women shouldn't have sex".... and "how many are the acceptable number of partners" (when you're a 35 something year old nevertheless). I blame the election and the climate leading up to it where it was clear to everyone who read the news that women were doing a whole lot of immoral behaviour and that it was in everyone's interest to help stop this. Or at least tell you that if you qauck like a slut, you are a slut and sluts are bad people.

I digress, as usual. I'll end the story by saying that I have no idea if I've had sex with more people than KK. Nor do I really want to know. I really only know that I haven't made a sex tape (the thought of me rolling around naked on video is scaring me more than I can say) but I might have kissed a few frogs along the way of trying to find that prince the fairy tales talked about when I was growing up ;)


Barefoot Doctoral said...

Two comments, both failing to address your qualifications as a scientist:

1) Sleeping with a lot of people doesn't make you a slut as much as it makes you an experienced partner, and therefore more likely to be a desirable person in bed.

2) Unless all "sluts" are lesbians, women having sex with a lot of people means that there are a lot of men out there who are also having sex with a lot of people....
Somehow, that just doesn't seems to cross anyone's mind.

3) Okay, third point... who the FUCK cares?!! (no pun intended.)

chall said...

Barefoot: I know it has nothing to do with me being a scientist. Although, right now I am wondering if my main point with the post got lost.... I wanted to make the person at work STOP guessing about numbers of partners since they did it to continue the thought the women shouldn't (and leaving men outside since "boys will be boys" pointing nicely to your 2) ). ah well. soap box.

And I wish it was as easy as ppl didn't care but it's still an easy way to undermine a woman's worth

Amanda@LadyScientist said...

I just had to say that the title of your post made me literally laugh out loud. :)

chall said...

Amanda: Mission accomplished ;)